The EMDR therapy process is often different from what people expect. Rather than starting with intense memories right away, it begins with preparation, grounding, and building a clear understanding of your experiences and triggers. From there, the work becomes more focused, targeting specific memories and the beliefs connected to them.

Attachment trauma can quietly shape the way you experience closeness, trust, and conflict in adult relationships. If you’ve ever felt anxious when someone pulls away, struggled to open up, or found yourself repeating painful relationship patterns, there may be deeper roots behind those experiences.

As a trauma therapist, I want to say this clearly: the belief that your emotions are “too much” is usually a survival strategy, not a personality flaw.

Often, a core need we are seeking in our communication with others is something called emotional validation in relationships. Over-explaining your point of view is a common way to try to get that core need met, though it often has the opposite effect.