EMDR Therapy For Trauma Healing.

Online trauma therapists serving Pennsylvania, New York, New Jersey, & Connecticut

You’re here because you want to find safe, loving relationships once and for all.

Don’t let the scars of the past define your current relationship.
Trauma and anxiety may shape your story, but healing gives you the pen to rewrite the ending.

About EMDR

Heal the wounds that keep you stuck in your life and relationships.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a therapy that helps your brain and body finally finish processing old experiences so they stop running the show in the background.

Think of it as clearing out corrupted files on a hard drive. You’re not erasing your memories, you’re teaching your nervous system that the danger has passed. So you can actually feel safe now, not just tell yourself you should be.


You’re Not Broken. You’re Carrying Old Pain

Maybe you’ve already tried therapy. Maybe you’ve journaled, meditated, read the books, listened to the podcasts, and still find yourself stuck in the same patterns: shutting down, overthinking, chasing, avoiding, blowing up, or numbing out.

It’s not because you’re lazy. It’s not because you’re doomed.
It’s because your nervous system is still wired to survive old pain.

Here’s the truth: most relational struggles aren’t solved with communication tips or “finding the right person.” They’re about caring for unhealed wounds, those younger parts of you that learned love meant abandonment, criticism, chaos, or having to shrink yourself to fit someone else’s needs.

When you work through these experiences with EMDR, you’re not just “managing triggers.” You’re changing how your body and brain hold those experiences.

EMDR For Safe, Successful Relationships.

Release the pain of past relationships and open space for deeper, more fulfilling connections today.

You might be ready for EMDR if…

You’ve identified your trauma and unpacked the story, but you still feel like your body is stuck in survival mode

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You constantly question if you’re “too much” in friendships but “not enough” in romantic relationships

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You spiral over the small things and freeze at the big things

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You say yes when you want to say no…and then feel resentment when you have to follow through

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You’re ready to stop carrying the emotional labor for everyone around you and put the “therapist friend” hat down for good

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You stay awake at night replaying conversations you had a week ago, questioning if there was a better way to respond

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You aren’t who you used to be, but you can’t quite figure out how to thrive while letting go of your past mistakes, relationships, or friends 

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Hi, I’m Mariah. 

“The past doesn’t have to keep calling the shots. With EMDR, you can finally feel what secure, steady connection is like…and trust yourself to keep it.”

If you’re tired of dating the same kind of person over and over, feeling like you can’t break out of old patterns, or replay family drama in your relationships, EMDR can actually help you shift what’s underneath it all. I work with people who feel stuck in their relationship patterns, are weighed down by the impact of immature parenting, or are caught in the anxious/avoidant cycle that makes relationships feel like a rollercoaster. Instead of just talking about your patterns, you’ll actually rewire them, so love and connection stop feeling like a trap and start feeling like home.

I see you. I’m here to help you:

  • Break the cycle of chasing, distancing, or “shutting down” in relationships

  • Recover from family dynamics that taught you to shrink or overperform for love

  • Get out of the rut of a stagnant love life and feel real aliveness again

  • Move from anxious or avoidant attachment into steady, secure connection

  • Finally feel like you’re living your own story—not your parents’

Hi, I’m Shira.

“You don’t have to just cope. You can rewire your mind and body, so you can stop reacting from past wounds and start living in the present.”

Sexual trauma and identity wounds don’t just live in your head, they live in your body, your relationships, and the way you see yourself. I offer EMDR in a space that’s safe, affirming, and built for healing, especially if you’re LGBTQ or a survivor of sexual assault. The goal isn’t just to “cope”, it’s to actually release the old pain so you can reclaim your body, your voice, and your right to relationships that feel good instead of scary or shame-filled.

We see you. We’re here to help you:

  • Release the hold of sexual trauma so you’re not stuck in defense mode

  • Drop the shame, self-blame, and silence that keep you disconnected

  • Rebuild your connection to desire, intimacy, and pleasure, on your own terms!

  • Feel safe and fully seen as an individual in your healing process

  • Reclaim your sense of self as whole, powerful, and enough

Our Approach to EMDR Therapy

Many of the deepest wounds come from relationships...

But healing also happens in safe relationships.

EMDR is designed to help you process painful memories, release stuck emotional patterns, and repair the impact of past relational trauma.

We combine EMDR’s science-backed techniques with a warm, relational style of therapy so that you can move from surviving past pain to creating a more fulfilling relational life now.

Outcomes of EMDR with Relational Realm…

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Instead of spiraling, shutting down, or going into defense mode, you actually get to respond from the present moment.

You’re not dragging old baggage into every fight, text, or date. You can actually connect without fear taking the wheel.

The panic, the tension, and the urge to numb out finally eases, because your nervous system learns it doesn’t have to stay on high alert.

You feel more like yourself. Not the version shaped by trauma or old stories, but the grounded, authentic you that feels whole, confident, and free.

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 FAQs

  • 100% yes! But, it does not look like undoing the past. Instead, we reestablish safety in your body and environment, explore and mourn the losses associated, connect with meaningful and rewarding experiences, and reconnect with yourself and others in a safe and supportive way.

  • We have a strong No Topic Is Off Limits rule: friendships, family dynamics, breakups, life transitions, romance…you bring it and we’ll dive into it.

  • As a concierge therapy service, Relational Realm does not accept insurance because most insurance companies dictate the methods, frequency, and length of your treatment. As trauma therapists, we cannot ethically treat you based on someone else’s assumptions of your needs. Additionally, insurance companies require treatment “justification,” asking therapists to prove that someone is “sick” and is not improving. This goes directly against our mission and values; you are not broken. 

    We provide Superbills for out of network insurance reimbursement.

  • Relational Realm is a registered provider with the Pennsylvania Victims’ Compensation Assistance Program (VCAP). Through VCAP, survivors of sexual assault (in childhood or adulthood) are eligible for up to $5,000 in funding for therapy services if the crime occurred in adulthood, and $10,000 if the crime occurred in childhood.

    Sexual assault victims seeking counseling services related to their abuse are not required to have reported the assault to police or other authorities to be eligible to receive these benefits.

  • We meet online via a HIPAA-compliant electronic health & video conferencing platform, JaneApp. Once your account is created, you’re able to log in to maintain appointments and payments and meet with your therapist via secure telehealth video chat.

  • All cancellations made sooner than 48 hours before an appointment will not incur a charge. If you cancel your appointment less than 48 hours before it is scheduled, you will be subject to the full charge of the session. Likewise, a “no-show” charge of the full cost of the session will be incurred if you miss a scheduled session with no notice. If you are more than 15 minutes late to your appointment, it is considered a “no show” and you will be responsible for the session fee.

Less coping, more healing.

Talking about it helped (at first), but it didn’t change how you navigate conflict, hold your boundaries, or heal your triggers. It’s time to go deeper so you can truly thrive both alone and within your relationships! Schedule your consultation with our online trauma therapists today.